When virtues are pointed out first, flaws seem less insurmountable.

“…women were brought up to have only one set of manners. A woman was either a la…”

“GENTLE READER: You, sir, are an anarchist, and Miss Manners is frightened to ha…”

“Eating grapes with a knife and fork is not what one would call refined. It is w…”

“DEAR MISS MANNERS:I a tired of being treated like a child. My father says it's …”