When virtues are pointed out first, flaws seem less insurmountable.

“There are three possible parts to a date, of which at least two must be offered…”

“DEAR MISS MANNERS:Should you tell your mother something if it is important when…”

“GENTLE READER: You, sir, are an anarchist, and Miss Manners is frightened to ha…”

“DEAR MISS MANNERS:When does a gentleman offer his arm to a lady as they are wal…”